The Following Links are for those struggling with pornography, masturbation, homosexuality, and other sexual addictions

Links and Resources to Help You be Free

Links to Web Sites that help People Get free from Pornography and other sexual sins.

Help Them Know God's Love again:

1.) Have them read the SeekGod.org's "A Letter From God To You"
- http://www.seekgod.org/bible/letterfromgod.html

2.) Have them listen, or watch the "Father's Love Letter Video." (which is similar)
- http://www.fathersloveletter.com/fllvideos.html
- http://www.fathersloveletter.com/fllcd.html
- http://www.fathersloveletter.com/flltextenglish.html

 

Men who struggle with sexual sins, come under a tremendous amount of guilt, shame, and condemnation. They continue to sin, because they can't bear to come before God as guilty and stained on the inside, as they feel.

However, by using your "A Letter From God To You" and the "Father's Love Letter video," I've been able to help struggling men & boys online to know the Love of God for them individually. As they receive the revelation of God's love, they are able to connect with God again, and seek to turn from sexual sins with God's help.

Sexual sin is very corrosive in men's lives. It causes pain, and shame that keeps men from turning to God. Here's a quote from "When We Just Can't Stop":
"Addictions often begin as a pursuit of pleasure to numb the discomfort of painful losses. But we soon discover that addictions multiply the pain. In time, it becomes worse than the pain we were trying to relieve. Now we find ourselves needing relief not only from our inescapable losses but also from the shame of our own foolishness. We feel shame for trusting in addictive behavior that made our problem worse."
"Shame, however, is also a deceiver. In the beginning, pleasure holds us in the addiction. In time, shame has the same effect. In their own ways, both are deceptively effective pain relievers. Pleasure is a filler; shame is a killer. Pleasure is a distracter; shame is an assassin. Both attach to our addictions. Both combine with our obsessions to numb our hearts not only to the harm we are doing to others but also to our own longing for love and relationship."
"Ironically, shame ends up being even more useful than pleasure in providing relief from our pain. Shame causes us to feel unworthy to give and receive love. Shame deadens our longings for relationship. Shame becomes a powerful pain killer not merely by lessening our pain but by deadening our hearts until we feel nothing at all."
"When our hearts are deadened, we don't hurt. We don't long to give and receive love. Neither are we able to feel the harm we are doing to others. Yet using our addiction and its resulting shame to feel nothing seems preferable to bearing the sorrows of life."
That's exactly why it's sooo important men & boys in sexual sin to know the Love of God for them. The revelation of God's Love is the only thing that breaks the shame barrier to seeking God for forgiveness, and help.

Answering Apologetic Questions:
Because people trapped in sexual sin lose their fellowship with God, they tend to have apologetic questions about Him. So, I will direct them to listen to these resources:

Ravi Zacharias (RZIM) Radio
http://www.rzim.org/radio/archives.php?p=LMPT&o=0&i=50

Apologist & Evangelist Ray Comfort
http://www.oneplace.com/ministries/ray_comfort/
www.wayofthemaster.com

 Greg Laurie (A New Beginning Radio)
http://www.oneplace.com/ministries/a_new_beginning

Greg Laurie (A New Beginning Video)
http://www.oneplace.com/Ministries/A_New_Beginning_Video/

It's helpful to let them know that all of these ministers are closely associated with Billy Graham (serving as his board of directors, or on committees of his ministry), because of Rev, Billy Graham's international respect and world renown as a man of integrity and simple contemporary evangelism.

 

Radical Amputation:
This is a principle from www.SettingCaptivesFree.com/course

Radical Amputation means to get rid of every source of porn, and immorality as possible, even if it costs the individual something that he/she desires. "If your arm offends you... cut it off..."

It's important for Internet porn addicts to get filter, accountability software, an online accountability partner, or to simply throw their computer/modem away.

It's important for some men to never carry a credit card, and only cary a little bit of money when they go shopping (so they can't pay for porn mags, massage parlors, xxx theaters, strip clubs, or prostitutes).

For married or single men, who have potential sexual partners (male or female) lined up, they need to change their email addresses, phone numbers, and even ditch their cell phones.

Radical Accountability:

This is another principle from www.SettingCaptivesFree.com/course

Radical Accountability is a must for people trapped in sexual sins.Accountabiltiy partners ask "How are you doing with (fill in the blank) today?" every day, every other day, or once a week.

It's important to help hook men up with online accountability partners, or local in person accountability partners.

This is best done by sending them to either the Setting Captives Free website (where they are hooked up with a mentor & a message board with accountability partners), the every man's battle message board, or local recovery groups in their area.

Accountability software is a must have for many men. Sometimes after just installing accountability software, many men never look at internet porn online ever again.

Other men require having a filter (because the internet is mostly composed of millions and millions of pornographic websites). The best filters can only block 98% of porn (allowing 2 out of every 100 porn websites) because of how many new porn websites are created.

However, by "Whitelisting," which means to block all of the internet except a couple hundred clean good websites. That's the only a internet connection can be 100% guaranteed to block all porn.

More information:

Recovery from sexual sin is a process that takes years. Sometimes the external things take only a few months or decades to stop. However, the internal desires, thought patterns, and warped mindset take even longer to correct and renew.

That's why it's imperative to have men start reading many resources, articles, books, bible study courses, and more to renew their minds in the areas of sexual sin, and purity.

Marketing:
A great place to reach out to teenagers with porn problems would be:
- www.govteen.com
- www.vteen.com

Govteen is one of the largest online teen communities on the web. And, Vteen is an offshoot of Govteen. I used to post in these forums, and they grow larger every year.

Teens love to go to those forums specifically to talk about every subject in sex, puberty, and adolescence under the sun. I warn that it's a very worldly forum for all teens (every race, nation, background, religion, etc.). Becareful about browsing the puberty forums, they tend to be intentionally graphic & explicit.

You might talk to those websites about putting a banner ad for your new SeekGod section for porn freedom for Christians.

Once you have a website, or section of your website for porn freedom - place it on the Google.com search engine, and directory (under sex/porn addiction). Also you can put it on www.dmoz.org (spelling?) which should also place your submission on several big search engine directories.

      Most men & women trapped in sexual sin will go to a search engine and type "porn addiction" or "sex addiction recovery" etc. That's where most websites get the most traffic online for their websites.

Online community:

Hosting an online community, such as a message board/forum, or chatroom would make your sight interactive enough for people to want to stick around the new section for your sight.

Teens & kids mostly like to talk with people in their age group in forums and chatrooms. Likewise, men like to talk only with other men about porn and other sexual addictions.

Proboards.com has free message board service available. You can use it to experiment with creating your own message board/forum.

You could ask for porn freedom experts, authors, or Christian sex Counselors to visit your forums, so solid biblical advice could be given out in an interactive manner. You would also need people who could commit to be moderators and administrators for it.

Or, you can just forward people to the forums at: www.bebroken.com , www.everymansbattle.com or http://forums.crosswalk.com/forumid_69/tt.htm (Men's personal issues forum at crosswalk.com)

Additional Articles:
Posting additional articles (from other ministries that I listed) directly on to your website will provide a plethora of helpful topical information about sexual addiction & freedom on your website. (You would have to ask permission first.)

Bookstore of sexual addiction resources:    : )

Having a bookstore to sell books, tapes and resources about porn from other ministries is a great way to help disciple men & women who are desperate for help.

Also, it would be a way to earn money ($$$$$) for your website/ministry!

Here are a couple links to Christianbook.com where they sell those kind of resources below retail prices. You could partner with christianbook.com and sell the same resources at or above the retail price.

http://www.christianbook.com/Christian/Books/easy_find?N=1039016&Ne=10000

http://www.christianbook.com/Christian/Books/easy_find?Ntk=keywords&Ntt=porn&action=Search&N=0&Ne=0&event=ESRCN&nav_search=1&cms=1

The bookstore for New Life ministries is a good place to look at materials as well:
https://my.newlife.com/cgi-bin/cart/catalog.pl?major=Series&minor=Every Man Series

Freedom Testimonies:
Here are a couple links to webpages with freedom testimonies from sexual addictions, from which you can base your testimony page, or copy testimonies to your website (after obtaining permission):

http://www.porn-free.org/freedom_testimonials.htm

My testimony is on this page. It's listed as:
8/22/5 “Thank you for this site. With your help (& others) God has made me porn-free for the last 10 months. I recommend this site to all the guys I talk to online, about quitting sexual impurity & pornography.”

http://www.settingcaptivesfree.com/testimonies/view_testimony.php

Then on that page, Click on the testimonies under:
-  "The Way of Purity" for sexual sin,
-  "United Front" for spouses of people involved in sexual sin,
-  "Door of Hope" for former homosexuals, and
- "Purity Force Challenge." for young teens

I hope that all of that information is helpful. If you have any more questions, feel free to ask me, or the directors of those ministry websites.

Blessings,